Screens are Soothing
Tech is self medicating
“For any youth using screen time to de-stress, the risk is that he, she, they aren’t getting the kind of conversation and interaction with parents, friends, or family that help develop the self-regulation skills and social and emotional insights they need.
The more they depend on their computers to cope with underlying, often unidentified problems, the greater the chances their dependency can turn into an addiction.”
Dr. Larry Rosen
Make a list about what we can do to relax besides technology or what to do instead of technology. Make a box, or have a shelf of creative activities.
Research psychologist Dr. Larry Rosen says that smartphone addiction is “really not addiction: it’s an anxiety-based disorder” “We’re not checking in to get pleasure. We’re checking in to remove anxiety.”
Teach to self soothe/self validate and express emotions.
Have faith in ability to cope.
What do you feel when on and when off device?
You are feeling bored right now, lets talks about what you could choose to do.
Current Trends/Apps that Could be Dangerous
Media / Entertainment
Netflix, Crave etc.
set limits
Reddit, Quora
BIGO live
VSCO
Roblox
Private Subscriptions
Onlyfans, Fansly, Chatterbait
Dating / Social
Bumble/Tinder/Yubo/Hinge/Feeld
Misc
Airdrop
(Mac, iPhone etc. – 30 ft- no blocking/reporting)
Private photo and or calculator/
camera to hide content/music too
ask fm
Parlor
Blendr
Anonymous Sites -
Whisper, Omegle, Youbo
Common Social Media Suggestions:
Instagram/Finsta
Comment controls - All Caught Up Cannot curate - Vanish mode
Snapchat
Mute Story - Silence notifications
TikTok
Restricted mode -Weekly Challenges (Smart Social app)
Cannot curate - Note: Kids can access online without the app.
YouTube
(kidsyoutube)
Messaging/
Video chat Apps
Telegram
What’s App
Signal
Google Hangout
Houseparty
Voxer
Holla
WeChat
Confide
IMVU
kik
BeReal
Playstation Party
GroupMe
Protect Your Kids
From Dangerous Apps
Apps post birthdays, schools etc. allows people to track you.
People can learn what your likes and dislikes are.
Minimum age for apps raised to 16 and age verification required ( Dr. Jean Twenge’s and Jonathan Haidt’s recommendation.)
Online Exploitation
“In 2022, B.C. RCMP dealt with 9,600 cases. In the first three months of this year alone, there were 5,790 cases.
Statistics Canada says 7,743 children in Canada were confirmed to be victims of online sexual violation between 2014 and 2020.
The perpetrators are hard to find — and even more difficult to prosecute.”
-Vancouver Sun
The unit that investigates online child exploitation in B.C. says it has noticed a dramatic rise in reports of the crime in 2023 and is advising children and caregivers to be vigilant.
The B.C. RCMP Integrated Child Exploitation (ICE) unit says it has received 5,790 reports of online child exploitation from Jan. 1 until March 31 this year — already more than half the entire number of the previous year.
Resources for Support
Unplugged Canada
Education, resources, advocacy and community for parents navigating smartphone use for children.
The Screenagers Blog
Information about cell phones and other relevant data for prevention of harmful technology use
Canada’s National
Tip Line
For Reporting the Online Sexual Exploitation of Children
Rehab Spot
Rehab options
Better Screen Time
In my opinion, the best online course for managing screen time.
START
An excellent resource for parents so that they can manage their homes digital technology for the best interest of the entire family
Centre for Humane Technology
Tips for how to use technology
and not let it use you
Phone Breakup
How to break up
with your phone
Safer Schools Together
A series highlighting the rapid advancements and challenges in the fields of mental health, social media, and artificial intelligence
The Center on Media and Child Health
Features a Mediatrician who can answer questions about media
Commonsense Media
A great resource to look up
age appropriate movies,
tv shows, apps etc.
Family Media Use Plans
Very helpful in setting limits and finding balance around technology. Includes plan examples
Books
Kids, Sex and Screens
by Jillian Roberts, Ph.D – Family Sparks Victoria, BC
A compassionate, practical guide for parents navigating the complex world of raising children in the digital age. Dr. Jillian Roberts, child psychologist and founder of Family Sparks in Victoria, BC, offers clear, age-appropriate advice on how to talk to kids about sex, safety, and screen use. With warmth and expertise, she empowers families to foster healthy communication, build resilience, and create a safer online experience for their children.
Screens and Teens
by Kathy Koch, PhD
Helps parents and educators understand how technology is shaping today’s youth—and what they can do about it. Dr. Kathy Koch offers insightful guidance on the emotional, relational, and spiritual impact of screens, providing practical strategies to help teens develop healthy habits, strong identities, and meaningful connections in a digital world.
Girls and Sex
by Peggy Orenstein
An eye-opening look into the modern sexual lives of teenage girls. Drawing on in-depth interviews, Peggy Orenstein explores the pressures, expectations, and realities young women face today. With honesty and empathy, she sheds light on the challenges of growing up in a culture saturated with mixed messages about sex, power, and self-worth.
Social Media
Concerns include disordered eating, privacy issues, low-self esteem (filters), exploitation, mental health concerns, isolation, attention-span.
Hyperpersonal effect- seems more important if said online.
Social comparison theory and Ziegarnik Effect: Looking for conclusion to social interaction (read, likes, FOMO).
An article about Fitness trackers
Parent Guides for Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok can be found online.
Regularly check ins with child/youth/partner about social media.
Tech Talk Tuesdays blog has wonderful information learn more
One Sec app(creates a pause to think before going on app)
Stay Free(limits and blocks different websites)
Unhook Youtube (removes recommended videos)
Loan phone like a library card(kids cannot purchase own phone from providers until age 18)
Pinwheel Phone is a basic phone you can now purchase. Pinwheel.com
Start apps on your device first, how did they do?
You can decide they are not ready for an app or game and can try again another time.